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If the Buddha married, creating enduring relationships on a spiritual path, Charlotte Sophia Kasl

eng

Includes bibliographical references (pages 245-247)

no index present

non fiction

If the Buddha married

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Charlotte Sophia Kasl

creating enduring relationships on a spiritual path

Approaches the institution of marriage as a means for awakening rather than a necessary evil, providing quotes from Zen, Sufi, and other wisdom traditions to help readers discover their potential for positive human connection

The Spiritual Path to Love -- Buddhism for Lovers and Partners -- Say Hello to Your Beloved: Sufism -- Learn to Trust Yourself: The Society of Friends -- Explore the Source of an Enduring Bond -- Discover the Freedom of Beginner's Mind -- Tune In to Yourself, Tune In to Your Lover -- I, You, and Us: A Dance in Three Parts -- Experience the "Us" Place of Relationship: Becoming More Than We Could Be Alone -- Experience Living in an "Us" Place -- Create More "Us" Consciousness -- Feel the Healing Power of Connection -- Look in Your Own Mirror -- Recognize the Masks You Wear -- Ask Yourself, "Am I Talking About Myself?" -- Remember to Ask, "Who Owns the Problem?" -- Live in the Center of Your Own Life -- Notice the Stories You Tell Yourself -- The Daily Practice of Living and Loving -- Treasure Trust: Keep Agreements with Great Care -- Tune In to Your Deeper Motivation -- "That's Not What I Said": Notice Your Interpretations -- Learn to Trust Your Intuition -- Of Love and Litter: Dealing with Compulsions in Relationships -- Explore Meditation and Psychotherapy -- When I Was a Child, I Spoke as a Child: Am I Still Doing It Now? -- Ask Yourself, "What Age Am I at This Moment?" -- Find Out Who Married Whom -- Recognize the Value of "Leaving Home" -- Explore Levels of Relationships -- Level One: Afraid to Be Close, Afraid to Be Separate -- Level Two: Sometimes I See You, Sometimes I Don't -- Level Three: Knowing Yourself So You Can Know Your Beloved -- Level Four: Feeling at Peace with Closeness and Separateness -- Level Five: I and Thou--We Are One, We Are Two -- Communion Is the Purpose of Communication -- Tune In to the Dance of Sending and Receiving Messages -- Remember the Basics of Good Communication -- Give No Advice--Well, Most of the Time -- Ask for No Advice--Except Sometimes -- You Can Defend Yourself Without Being Defensive -- Learn the Art of Apology -- Rebuild the Bridge: Forgiveness and Letting Go -- Make Friends with Conflict -- The Art of Handling Conflict -- Meeting Our Differences: Fight the Good Fight -- Practice Conflict Prevention -- Recognize Counterfeit Conflicts -- Remember, We Are Animals with a Neocortex: Recognize Fight, Flight, and Freeze Reactions -- Recognize the Many Faces of Anger -- What to Do When You Reach an Impasse -- Learn Fair-Fight Rules -- Learn to Self-Soothe -- More Clarity, More Love: Help a Good Relationship Get Better -- Making Love with the Beloved -- Making Love: The Union of Body and Spirit -- Sexual High or Sexual Connection: What's the Difference? -- Finding Out Why the Fire Has Faded -- Deepen Your Sexual Bond -- Support Each Other Being Completely Honest -- Stay Lovers During the Parenting Years -- Understand the True Meaning of Monogamy -- What to Do with Attraction to Others -- Make Love with a Beginner's Mind -- I and Thou: Even Good Relationships Can Get Better -- Keep Your Relationship Dancing -- Be Creative Together -- Remember, Our Task Is to Expand Our Love--Not to Change Others -- Accept Life's Daily Losses -- Relationships Need Tending, and Tending Takes Time -- Your Loving Relationship Blesses the World